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Dating an Addict
Cocaine
by Pseudonym
Citation:   Pseudonym. "Dating an Addict: An Experience with Cocaine (exp51363)". Erowid.org. May 28, 2008. erowid.org/exp/51363

 
DOSE:
  repeated   Cocaine

BODY WEIGHT: 130 lb


My boyfriend, whom I will call Matt, has been using cocaine recreationally since he was 17. He will be 23 six days from today, and still uses cocaine. When we first started dating, I had never tried cocaine. I had tried my fair share of other drugs: opium, mushrooms, ecstasy, mali (MDMA), LSD--in other words, I was not closed-minded to or unexperienced in the use of drugs recreationally. Also, I'm a pothead through-and-through--I love weed and see nothing wrong with smoking multiple times daily. This is certainly not being mentioned because I am proud of the drugs I have taken, but to establish a sort-of 'credit' with readers, perhaps to express just how open-minded I really am when it comes to substances, perhaps, too, to reiterate just how different cocaine is in comparison to the drugs I just named.

But back to my story...damned ADD...

In addition to Matt, most of my friends used cocaine recreationally, too, so I had been exposed to it more times than I could ever begin to count. Knowing it's high addictivity rate, I decided I should probably limit my addictions to one (that being pot) and steer clear of the stuff. Dating a user is different than partying with users, and, as often happens to young, impressionable girls, my curiosity eventually got the best of me. It was a special occasion (OU/Texas weekend) and I was drunk, so when my roommate offered me a line, I took her up on it.

This is not, however, a testimonial of my experience with the drug, which I found to be disappointing and ultimately very depressing after the initial, short-lived high. I'm sure I don't need to go into the physical/psychological effects of blow, as you can find these traits on just about any other post. It should also be noted that this was, of course, not my first-and-last time to use cocaine, as I had originally planned.

My boyfriend was extremely disappointed when he 'found out' I had tried it (I use quotes because he and I did a line together my first night of doing it and he didn't remember the next day until I told him). After that I noticed a peculiar change in myself--instead of the nonchalance I practiced in dealing with his frequent and heavy usage (at times he would blow a gram in less than an hour), I responded with hostility. If he was doing it, I wanted to do it out of spite, or so I thought. So I did, anytime I had the chance.

Once I noticed this pattern developing, I knew I had to get smart. I confessed to Matt that I had been using more than he was aware of, partially out of spite and partially because of an addiction I didn't know I was feeding. For our New Years resolution, we resolved to stop.

It doesn't take a genius to figure out that for me, it was a piece of cake. After about a month of being clean, I stopped thinking about it, even when I was pissed drunk. Matt, however, began to find creative ways to continue using without my knowing. Lying about where he was going, sneaking out after I fell asleep and defending his strange behavior as though it were his religion became frequent occurrences. Any idiot could see what was going on, and being the patient person I am, I offered my help. He had expressed his desire to quit to the point of tears so many times before, and to this day I believe that his desire is sincere. But such is the nature of the beast--as much as he may want to stop, his addiction is uncontrollable. From my position, to try to stop him is quite impossible. Only the conductor can stop the train--not the person lying on the tracks.

Of all the drugs I have ever tried, this is the ONLY ONE I seriously regret. I regret it so much now that I can't even hang out with my friends who still use it. Matt loved me more than this drug, but his addiction was too much for either of us to handle. I would do ANYTHING to be able to free him from it, and I will always love him for the wonderful person he is--he is just unfortunate enough to fall victim to this drug. It pains me so much to write about this that even as I type these words, my eyes water and that damned lump in my throat returns.

When I broke up with Matt, he was devastated. He criticized me, told me how much he needs me to get through his addiction, and cried more than I have ever seen a man cry. But the emotional weight I was carrying from his addiction-driven lies and such was finally too much.

Skipping back, there is one thing that Matt told me while we were together, after he 'found out' I had tried blow, that really hit home to me. I hope I have conveyed to you the seriousness of Matt's addiction and how it caused him (and me) to lose a very close, personal relationship. Matt and I were arguing about my right to do cocaine, and I was spitting out all the predictable lines one would expect to hear. 'You do it all the time,' I argued, 'don't be hypocritical. Besides, I only did it once.' With remorse in his tone and tears welling up in his eyes, he replied, 'yeah, I tried it once, too.'

Exp Year: 2006ExpID: 51363
Gender: Female 
Age at time of experience: Not Given 
Published: May 28, 2008Views: 9,057
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